Letting Go and Letting God

Last month was really rough for me. I got into a huge fight with my ex-boyfriend. I found out that he was dating someone else. We were not together at the time but several months back he was asking me to marry him. Now, the last time I spoke to him I told him we could never talk again because I knew the relationship was going nowhere. He was not born again and had a lot of issues that he felt were not a problem. And I could not trust him because there were too many things that he did throughout our relationship.

So to make a long story short we got into a heated argument about how he continued to lie to me and lead me on to believe that he wanted to marry me. He yelled at me for trying to control his life and talking to him about his current situation without knowing all the facts. We both said some hurtful things to each other and it was the worst fight we ever had.

I got off the phone and was so upset. I was crying to my sister, one of best friends and a friend from my church. I could not believe the things that he said to me. My friends and sister comforted and prayed with me about the situation. I was in so much pain for a week. I had to constantly ask God for his strength. There was no way I was going to get through it without Him. I had to lean on Him for understanding and comfort. The Lord let me know that I was going to be okay. The key was I had to let go.

I was trying to hold on to a relationship that was going no where. And we do it all the time whether it is a job, relationship, position or lifestyle. It is so difficult for us to let things go. But nothing is too hard for God. ‘Ah, Lord GOD! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and outstretched arm. There is nothing too hard for You. Jeremiah 32:17. The Lord told me years ago when I started to get back in my walk with Him that I needed to let this relationship go. God told me that He had to do a mighty work in me and that being in this relationship was going to hinder my walk with Him. He also said that it would be blocking the work He has to do in my ex.

The Lord had to teach me to lose control because me being in control was only wasting time and hurting me in the long run. I had to lean on the Lord. In Proverbs 3:5-6 it says to "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths." This is the key of letting go and letting God!

Once we let go of our own agenda and let God step in and be in control, wonderful things will start to happen. God is our Father and our Father knows best. We need to trust in Him more and know that he will give us the best things in life. So with that said, I made amends with my ex and forgive him for things he said and I let go of that relationship. I made the decision to die to my plans and let God have His way.

I pray that what ever you are going through that you allow the Lord to step in and be in control of the situation. Do not fool yourself, you can not do it. Only God can fix it and put you on the right path. I would like to leave you with this song by Yolanda Adams that has helped me through this tough time. I hope that it will encourage you and bless you.